| Some people complain more than others, | | | | out of his/her control, put upon and life is against |
| however, unless, we truly listen to our words | | | | me is the weather - "The sky is getting dark, it is |
| consistently many people might complain more | | | | going to rain, that's all I need." |
| than they think they do. Surveys reveal that on | | | | In his book, The Power of Now, Ekhart Tolle |
| average the majority of people complain about | | | | suggests the following exercise to break a |
| something 15 - 30 times a day. | | | | complaining habit. Listen to yourself speak, if you |
| Complaining is non-acceptance of what is and it | | | | notice yourself complaining either in speech or |
| carries an unconscious negative charge. The top | | | | thought about something, what other people say |
| issues that people complain about the most, but, | | | | or do, your surroundings, your life situation, or the |
| not in any particular order, are surroundings, life | | | | weather make a mental note of it. |
| situation, weather, family, spouse, children, | | | | Continue to listen to yourself complain for one |
| parents, work, co-workers, neighbor and the list | | | | week. After a week decide to change one thing |
| goes on. Complaining is a habit that has become | | | | that you complain about, something that is easy |
| second nature to the complainer. | | | | to change. The weather is easer than working to |
| Complaining creates as much self-sabotage as | | | | change complaining about someone. Then decide |
| negative thinking. When you complain you are | | | | what to say or do instead. For example: If you |
| thinking, talking and acting as a victim. When you | | | | habitually complain about the weather, you could |
| do not like something empower yourself to leave | | | | say - "The weather service reported rain today, I |
| the situation, change it or accept it. All else is | | | | will take my umbrella." Repeat this process for |
| madness. | | | | thirty days. Avoid the tendency to criticize |
| The majority of people know nothing is perfect. | | | | yourself if you notice that you complain about the |
| They accept what is; as a fact of life or they get | | | | weather sometimes. You will notice at the end of |
| busy and change it. Complainers on the other | | | | thirty days you seldom complain about weather. |
| hand feel short changed, disenchanted, put upon, | | | | Then choose another issue to stop complaining |
| inconvenienced, and in extreme situations believe | | | | about. Continue this process until you have |
| life is against them. More often than not, the | | | | eliminated the majority of things that you |
| issues people complain about are things, which he | | | | complain about. After you have eliminated the |
| she has no control over. One example of the | | | | majority of complaining you will probably notice |
| person, who complains about something that is | | | | that your relationships have less tension. |